Summer is a time when we give ourselves permission to slow down and take a breather from the hectic pace of daily life. What a great time to just let yourself ponder, meditate and reflect upon things that might otherwise be too time-consuming to consider. Sort of like day-dreaming. When the mind is still, we have a chance to be present and open to limitless possibilities.
To help get you started, here are a couple of reflections and affirmations by Melody Beattie, author of several books on recovery, co-dependency and relationships with self and others. These gems come from her book, The Language of Letting Go. Her ideas have merit for everyone.
We need balance between work and play … between giving and receiving … between thoughts and feelings … between caring for our physical self and our spiritual self. A balanced life has harmony… A balanced life takes into account all our needs: our needs for friends, work, love, family, play, private time, recovery time and spiritual time.
Affirmation: Today, I will examine my life to see if the scales have swung too far in any area, or not far enough in some. I will work toward achieving balance.
Say thank you, until you mean it. Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. It turns problems into gifts, failures into successes, the unexpected into perfect timing, and mistakes into important events. … Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow. … We can start today with who we are and what we have today, apply gratitude, then let it work its magic.
Affirmation: Today, I will shine the transforming light of gratitude on all the circumstances of my life.
Giving Ourselves What We Deserve
Often, our instinctive reaction to something we want or need is, “No, I can’t afford it.” The question we can learn to ask ourselves is, “But can I?” … Gratitude for what we have is an important recovery concept. So is believing we deserve the best and making an effort to stop depriving ourselves and start treating ourselves well. There is nothing wrong with buying ourselves what we want when we can afford it. …There are times when it is good to wait. There are times when we legitimately cannot afford a luxury. But there are many times when we can.
Affirmation: Today, I will combine the principles of gratitude for what I have with the belief that I deserve the best. If there is no good reason to deprive myself, I won’t.
Here is an exercise:
Today, let someone give to you. Let someone do something nice for you. Let someone give you a compliment or tell you something good about yourself. Let someone help you. Then, stand there and take it. Take it in. Feel it. Know that you are worthy and deserving. Do not apologize. Do not say, “You shouldn’t have.” Do not feel guilty, afraid, ashamed or paniky. Do not immediately try to give something back.
Just say, “Thank you.”
Affirmation: Today, I will let myself receive one thing from someone else, and I will let myself be comfortable with that.
Being is Enough
We are not always clear about what we are experiencing or why. In the midst of grief, transition, transformation, learning, healing or discipline – it’s difficult to have perspective. That’s because we have not learned the lesson yet. We are in the midst of it. The gift of clarity has not yet arrived. Our need to control can manifest itself as a need to know exactly what is going on. We cannot always know. Sometimes, we need to let ourselves be and trust that clarity will come later, in retrospect. …The lesson, the purpose, shall reveal itself – in time, in its own time. It will all make perfect sense – later.
Affirmation: Today, I will stop straining to know what I don’t know, to see what I can’t see, to understand what I don’t yet understand. I will trust that being is sufficient, and to let go of my need to figure things out.
Article written by Pat Antoniak, Registered Nurse-Registered Aromatherapist and owner of the Natural Comfort Wellness Centre in Tsawwassen