Understanding that energy cannot be destroyed, but it can be transformed, is a good place to start when one looks at transformation. Since transformation is taking what currently exists and creating something different, it is somewhat reassuring to see that nothing is ever really lost in the process; just changed from what it once was. Yet for some, even the thought of small change produces such stress as to paralyse them from taking any transformative action. This paralysis can actually add to the stress, although the person experiencing it does not usually see it.
Change involves loss, because something must go in order for something new to arrive. The way one has handled loss in life will influence how any changes are viewed. Traumatic loss generally transfers a feeling of trauma whenever change is on the horizon. Trauma evokes fear. According to the Law of Attraction, re-living this sense of trauma only attracts more trauma. This then increases a sense of being powerlessness to do anything different. One begins to lose confidence and courage to deal with future changes and loss. Depression and anxiety can become overwhelming.
However, if loss has been acknowledged, grieved and let go, the opportunity to experience change in a positive way then exists. Although grief is experienced as painful, it can be transformational. To go through the emotions and memories is necessary in order to put the relationship into perspective. The attachment to what was lost must now transform into a sense of non-attachment if one is to move on and be healthy. And with this transformation comes deeper knowledge and understanding of yourself, the world and your connection to All That Is.
People have choice – how you choose to approach loss and change is up to you. Love yourself enough to take the road of change and transformation. As the saying goes, “You’ll love what you become” … Collette Baron-Reid.
Article written by Pat Antoniak Registered Nurse-Registered Aromatherapist
and owner of the Natural Comfort Wellness Centre in Tsawwassen, BC.